To All the Girls Who Loved Before

I dedicate this post to those who I think need it; to those who have to let go something they thought is real and pure. But instead find it something mediocre. Hi. I’m Gieline and I will share you what I think I know about letting go of things, people and memories. Letting go is technically a part of life. Everybody has to go to the process. You’ll cry for weeks until your eyes turn into red. The sound of your crying will be your lullaby. Your heart will be full of hatred and pain until it turns you into mean monster. But then, you’ll have to realize there’s so much to see. Not only him. There will be your friends, your family, books, movies and of course God. It will be so hard before it gets easier. Then after that, things will get better. You just got to go through the hard stuff first. It’s so painful but...I believe that everything that hurts make us see things we’ve never seen. Pain makes us see things differently. Like how we see our friends. We may think they are so annoying sometimes but they are the one who are always there for us whether up or down. Like how you see your family. They’re the loudest people you know but then you will find them precious and eternal. Like how you see how the sun shines, how you look at the clouds, believe me. I may sound weird but it’s all true. All the existence of the people you love, every breath they take will be more appreciated than before. Your past gives you strength and wisdom you have today. Being hurt repeatedly can create a monster out of someone. So don’t let anyone hurt you especially him. When people walk away, let them. Your future isn’t about the people who walk away. Your future is about people who stay in your life. Don’t chase people. You are important. You don’t need to run after them to prove you matter. Yes. It is hard. But sometimes, often times, the hard thing and the right thing are the same. Don’t set yourself on fire just so you can keep him warm. Don’t ever rely on someone loving you just so you can feel whole. But you don’t meet people by accident. Everyone you meet has a purpose in your life. And when they have done their purpose on you,that will be the time to let go. If there’s one thing I really want you to remember is that, there is magic in this world. So are illusions. Do not be fooled by his charms. Sometimes, you may think you fell in love but the truth is he tripped you in love. You may think he’s magic, sparks, sugar, spice and everything nice. But that may be a mask to hide who he really is, to hide what his real intentions are. That real intention will be just two things; to destroy you or to strengthen you. And you have the power to choose. Are you gonna let him destroy you? Or are you gonna toughen up? Sometimes you have to let go of people because they are toxic to you. Let them go because they take and take and take and take and leave you empty. Let them go because in the ocean of life, when all you want to do is float, they are gonna be the anchor who will pull you down. Do not be afraid of change. If there’s no change, there will be no butterflies. Do not think of what you have to give up but instead think of what you have to gain. He will always, always break your heart and watch you as you pick the shattered pieces. He will break down your walls and when you rebuild it, add some windows to let the sunshine in, darling. Have a good cry and wash out your heart. If you keep it inside, it will tear you apart. There is nothing sexier than knowing your worth. You need to let that shit go. And if you really are worth it, he will not forget girls like you. He will never forget what your love felt like. He’s going to be sorry he lost you. I wanna see you be brave. I wanna see you as the queen of your life and that the choice is yours. Someday, someone’s gonna look at you like a blind man sees the sun for the first time, like you’re the one they’re waiting for their entire lives. Just patiently wait for it. Forgive…because in that way you will free yourself from the negative energies of him. Don’t regret for your love. The love you gave is the love you will soon receive. Nobody is going to come and save you. You’ve got to save yourself. Love is worth fighting for but you can’t be the only one fighting. Be strong enough for yourself. Don’t play victim. Don’t make yourself look pitiful. Don’t point fingers. Strong women, they stand and deal. I hope you have life you can be proud of and if not, I hope you find strength to start over. Dance it out, go for a walk, go to bed earlier. The best thing women can have is her shit together and under control. Don’t ever hate him cause that will make him important. Thank him instead. Because of him, you will feel yourself slowly and surely becoming the “YOU”, you have always dreamed of. There will come a day when you realize that turning the page is the best feeling in the world, that there is so much more than the page you were stuck on. J

P.S: We're too young to amount to anything else. Enjoy life. Live while were young. \m/ 

"Just because the situation turned out kind of messed up, doesnt mean that my memories aren't valid." -Unbreak My Heart, Melissa Walker